The Anatomy of Pleasure:
The Penis
Today, we're going talk about how to handle a penis. If you 1) know how and where a penis feels pleasure, 2) know how your husband likes to be touched, and 3) approach sex with enthusiasm and affection, you'll be quote-unquote "good in bed." Seriously, it's that easy. For you married sisters, this info may help bring some extra spark into your relationship. For the engaged sisters, don't worry too much about all this technique right when you get married. Take some time to get used to being with your husband if you want to.
Your husband may be circumcised or uncircumcised. Circumcision usually happens shortly after birth, and it means that the foreskin--a small casing of skin at the tip of the penis--has been removed.
This is what an erect circumcised penis looks like:
Your husband may be circumcised or uncircumcised. Circumcision usually happens shortly after birth, and it means that the foreskin--a small casing of skin at the tip of the penis--has been removed.
This is what an erect circumcised penis looks like:
If you'd like a more complete diagram of both circumcised and uncircumcised penises, check out this fantastic site. (The diagrams are similar to the ones on this page, so don't worry: you're not going to run into photos.)
For most men, the most sensitive areas are the tip, and the ridge along the bottom of the shaft.
And here's how you make a penis happy.
But first, a quick disclaimer: every man is different, and enjoys different sensations. Some of these ideas may work for you and some may not. Try things out. See what makes your husband respond, and talk to him about what he finds especially pleasurable.
Having said that... the following are some general principles you might find helpful. We'll talk about most of them in terms of using your hands, but you can do most of them with your hands, mouth, during intercourse, or... well, you can get creative. If using your hands, you'll want to use some kind of lubrication for this to avoid hurting him -- a commercial lube, saliva, and sex-safe oils are all good options.
1. Quick strokes up and down. Wrap one hand around the shaft of his penis and bring your hand up and down, keeping a firm but gentle grip. (If you're not sure how firm or gentle, try this same kind of movement on one of your fingers, like it's a penis. If it makes you go "ouch," even a little bit, you're probably being too rough.) Remember: the rim of the penis head is particularly sensitive, so try applying extra pressure or other stimulation there.
2. Churning butter. Okay, that's not the sexiest way to put this... but you'll see what I mean. Wrap your hand around his penis and twist one direction as you pull up, and the other direction as you move down. This provides extra stimulation and it's a little more interesting than just going up and down.
3. Two-handed tunnel. Take one hand and, starting at the top of his penis head, wrap it around the penis and slide it down toward his scrotum. Before it reaches the bottom, take your other hand and do the same thing. Alternate hands. The end effect feels like penetration that goes on forever... or so I hear.
4. Two-timing. If you're into oral sex, this is a good way to take some of the effort off you and give your husband a little added sensation. While using your mouth and tongue on his penis head (paying extra attention to the frenulum with your tongue!), wrap one hand gently around the base of his shaft and use the churning motion described above. If you want to get really ambitious, try combining this with:
5. Testicle play. Be very, very careful around the testicles. They're sensitive -- there's a reason guys fall over if they get kicked there! Touched gently, though, they can provide heightened pleasure. While working on his penis with your hands or mouth, or during intercourse, gently cup them in your palm and push them up toward the base of his scrotum. This can intensify sensation in some men. Again: be cautious, and pay attention to his responses.
That should be enough to get you started. Remember, keep experimenting, and keep talking to your husband about what you both enjoy. Have fun!
Have a great technique we didn't cover here? Let us know in the comments. (Remember, you can comment completely anonymously, so don't be shy!)
For most men, the most sensitive areas are the tip, and the ridge along the bottom of the shaft.
And here's how you make a penis happy.
But first, a quick disclaimer: every man is different, and enjoys different sensations. Some of these ideas may work for you and some may not. Try things out. See what makes your husband respond, and talk to him about what he finds especially pleasurable.
Having said that... the following are some general principles you might find helpful. We'll talk about most of them in terms of using your hands, but you can do most of them with your hands, mouth, during intercourse, or... well, you can get creative. If using your hands, you'll want to use some kind of lubrication for this to avoid hurting him -- a commercial lube, saliva, and sex-safe oils are all good options.
1. Quick strokes up and down. Wrap one hand around the shaft of his penis and bring your hand up and down, keeping a firm but gentle grip. (If you're not sure how firm or gentle, try this same kind of movement on one of your fingers, like it's a penis. If it makes you go "ouch," even a little bit, you're probably being too rough.) Remember: the rim of the penis head is particularly sensitive, so try applying extra pressure or other stimulation there.
2. Churning butter. Okay, that's not the sexiest way to put this... but you'll see what I mean. Wrap your hand around his penis and twist one direction as you pull up, and the other direction as you move down. This provides extra stimulation and it's a little more interesting than just going up and down.
3. Two-handed tunnel. Take one hand and, starting at the top of his penis head, wrap it around the penis and slide it down toward his scrotum. Before it reaches the bottom, take your other hand and do the same thing. Alternate hands. The end effect feels like penetration that goes on forever... or so I hear.
4. Two-timing. If you're into oral sex, this is a good way to take some of the effort off you and give your husband a little added sensation. While using your mouth and tongue on his penis head (paying extra attention to the frenulum with your tongue!), wrap one hand gently around the base of his shaft and use the churning motion described above. If you want to get really ambitious, try combining this with:
5. Testicle play. Be very, very careful around the testicles. They're sensitive -- there's a reason guys fall over if they get kicked there! Touched gently, though, they can provide heightened pleasure. While working on his penis with your hands or mouth, or during intercourse, gently cup them in your palm and push them up toward the base of his scrotum. This can intensify sensation in some men. Again: be cautious, and pay attention to his responses.
That should be enough to get you started. Remember, keep experimenting, and keep talking to your husband about what you both enjoy. Have fun!
Have a great technique we didn't cover here? Let us know in the comments. (Remember, you can comment completely anonymously, so don't be shy!)
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